The definition of insanity: making the same mistake again and expecting different results. Sounds like a simple thing to avoid, but you would be surprised how many people will repeatedly make the wrong choices.
Successful people understand when to turn back and try a different path. There’s a reason they got to be successful in the first place. Take it from me, Darryl Hicks; as the CEO of two Tungsten companies, you might say I’m moderately successful. More importantly, I have a network filled with some pretty great minds. From them, I’ve learned a lot about mistakes and how we learn from them.
If you want to become successful yourself, you might want to start by never doing these ten things again:

• Return to something that didn’t work the first time

Some mistakes are more obvious than others. Have you ever returned to a job or a relationship you previously left for good reason, only to realize your mistake later?

2. Change who they are for someone else

We are who we are for a reason. In other words, trust your gut. If something doesn’t feel right, or if you feel like there’s a better way, follow your instinct.

3. Change someone else for them

If you can accept who you are, you can accept how everyone else is. They might have a different opinion, and that’s okay. Accepting their freedom of choice is the first step to unlock your own freedom.

4. Choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit

Have you heard about what happens to lottery winners? They tend to end up in poverty. Maybe that’s because 96% of winners take it by a lump sum; even though it’s millions less than having your winnings given to you annually, people still choose it because they can’t wait for the money. Then they make bad decisions with it. Successful people have the willpower to wait for rewards.

5. Believe they can make everyone happy

No one can. Instead of breaking your back to please everyone, focus on pleasing the right people.

6. Go in without a backup plan

If things appear too good to be true, odds are, they are. It’s okay to try, but be prepared for failure, and when it does happen, have a backup plan ready.

7. Focus on the little things instead of the big picture

Successful people have both short and long-term goals. They manage to keep both in mind with any decision they make. It’s like walking through the woods; if you can’t see where you’re going, it’s easy to get turned around by accident. Keep your eye on the prize.

8. Give minimal effort

The laziest work you do will never be your best work. It takes real effort and skill to accomplish the big tasks that successful people strive for.

9. Fail to ask “Why?”

Those three letters can teach a lot. Ask it not only of the world, but also of yourself. Why are you here? Why are you trying for this? The most unbeatable people are the people with a cause worth fighting for.

10. Focus too much on outer success

Remember that, in order for you to be successful, you have to feel successful. If you are happy and at peace with yourself, you have the potential to go anywhere. Take it from Tungsten’s CEO; fix yourself before you fix the world.
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Success doesn’t always have to involve money. In fact, it usually involves happiness, built from your relationships with others. You can be one of the richest people on earth, but if you are unhappy, you’re not successful.

I’ve been asked about this many times. They say “Darryl, how do you run two Tungsten companies and find time to keep yourself happy?” Let me share my secret with you. It may not work for everyone, but it works for me.

8 Questions

Every night, before I go to bed, I ask myself these questions. They focus mainly on my impact with the world. If I answer “no” to any of them, it motivates me to try harder until I can confidently say “yes.”

1. Have I made sure my loved ones feel loved?
2. Have I worked on keeping my body healthy?
3. Have I reviewed my plans for the future?
4. Have I avoided hurtful words and harmful actions?
5. Have I helped someone less fortunate than myself?
6. Did I make any good memories today?
7. Have I learned anything new today?
8. Did I feel grateful to be alive?

If you answer “no” to all of those questions, you are not successful. At least, not yet. Keep asking yourself the questions, every single night, before you go to bed. Better yet, write them down, and keep a log of your answers.

By doing that, you’re training yourself to turn those into “yes” answers. You’ll start thinking of the questions during the day, and how you can satisfy them. You’re training yourself to focus on what’s really important.

If you can turn them all from “no” answers into “yes,” on a consistent basis, you’ll feel much more satisfied with your life. If you have any trouble doing that, drop me a line at Darryl Hicks Tungsten, and I’ll be glad to help.

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Proven by Science!

In a 1981 Stanford University study, two groups of children were given 42 pages of math problems to solve. One group was told to have them all done within seven sessions. This group wasn’t motivated to get the task done, and after their answers were reviewed, researches found only 40% of their answers to be correct.

The other group was given the same problems, but was told to do six pages per session, across the same seven sessions. They were more motivated, finished the work more quickly, and got 80% of them correct. Breaking the problems up into baby steps really worked for them!

What about adults?

Just because that experiment was on people who could count their age on their fingers, doesn’t mean it wouldn’t work on you! It certainly worked on me, Darryl Hicks. I wouldn’t be the CEO of two Tungsten companies if it didn’t! Ten years ago, if you had told me to run two companies at the same time, I would have told you it was impossible. But tackling the challenge step-by-step turned out to be the best move I could have made.

Consider any sort of health goal. People who try to cut out something unhealthy from their diet (like sugar or carbs) end up losing interest in the first week or two, because they jump right into it. Instead, consider substitutions. Substitute a can of soda or that second coffee with a glass of water. Instead of that brownie, a piece of fruit. Once you get into the habit of eating better, it becomes easy; but you must enter the habit one step at a time.

Taking things by baby steps works with all areas of life. To get to the other side of that long road, it’s faster if you take small steps than it is to take giant leaps and end up falling.

If you have any questions, visit me at Darryl Hicks Tungsten, and I would be glad to help.

Darryl Hicks, Tungsten Talks.

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When it all boils down to it, you don’t have to be successful to be happy. In fact, happiness shouldn’t be tied to success at all. You should be capable of finding happiness based off your own life and experience, and how far you’ve come to get there.
Being so busy with the two Tungsten companies, I, Darryl Hicks, live a very fast-paced life. For a while, it was difficult for me to slow things down enough to find any real happiness; I got too caught up in the adrenaline of success and business. But over the years, I’ve learned a trick or two.
Let me share with you my secrets for happiness:

• Get plenty of rest every night.

We’ve all had nights where we didn’t sleep well. For me, I was always staying up late, finishing some critical task. Don’t make that mistake; your health and happiness is always more important. Everything else can wait until the morning, when you’re refreshed.

2. Meditate.

I recently added meditation to my morning routine, and it’s done wonders. You don’t have to do it for long; try 20 minutes a day. Concentrating all of your focus on letting your mind wander can help you come up with new ideas and perspectives to be excited about.

3. Savor the everyday.

Think about the things you do every day. Maybe you eat the same cereal, or the same lunch, or drive the same route to work. We do it so often, we stop enjoying them. Look at it with a fresh perspective, like you’re doing it the first time. Look at the scenery, taste that old food like it’s new.

4. Be Spontaneous

At the same time, don’t be afraid to do things a little differently. The world is a big place, and there are lots of new sensations to explore.

5. Exercise

When you move, the brain releases endorphin’s which literally make you happier. Try a new sport, or learn to dance. Going to the gym every day will help, but doing something more fun will help even more.

6. Get a pet

There’s a real thing out there called pet therapy. Owning the right pet gives you an extra loving companion, right there when you need it. Petting a cat or dog is scientifically proven to lower blood pressure and improve mood.

7. Engage with people.

Talk to a stranger every day, and learn their perspective. They might even teach you something new. Don’t forget about human contact either; so long as it’s warranted, something like a hug, a pat on the back, or even a friendly smile can do the same things that petting an animal can.

8. Use lists.

And, because we can’t avoid working, we want to make sure we get the most reward out of it that we can, right? That’s why I use lists. There’s something highly satisfying about checking a challenging task off the to-do list. It gives me a sense of accomplishment, and it can do the same for you.
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If you haven’t met me yet, I’m Darryl Hicks, CEO of Tungsten Revenue Consultants. Recently, I wrote a goal-setting article about how stating your intention of where, when, and how you would complete your goal would make you more successful than if you were using motivation boosters alone. You can check out that article here.

I received a lot of good feedback about the article, but one comment posed an interesting question. To paraphrase, they asked about the unpredictable parts of life. What if you plan to complete a goal, but an emergency happens? I did post a response to it as a comment to the article, but I want to expand upon it a little more.

First off, they are right. As famously put by Robert Burns, the best laid plans of mice and men often go awry. If one of these emergencies interrupts a goal you wrote with intention, there is a backup plan. You use “If… then” or “because… then” statements.

If You Build It, They Will Come.

If you build your plan around potential emergencies, you won’t have to sacrifice  your goals to them. If you build your plan properly, then results will come to you.

Let’s say you write down an intention to do 20 minutes of strong exercise at 2pm, in your living room. You should also write something like “If I cannot exercise at that time, then do it at 4pm instead.” Don’t just say later, set yourself an actual time. Or, “If something happens and I can no longer exercise at all, then I will substitute tonight’s snack with a piece of fruit.”

Because we can never predict the future, there are “because…then” statements too, for fixing your plan after the emergency happens. “Because I overslept and didn’t have time to meditate, I will meditate during my lunch hour instead.”

The Flip-Side

Don’t get so caught up in success that you over plan your whole life. Part of the happiness from life comes from its unpredictability. Not all these emergencies are bad things; sometimes, they are opportunities. Like I said in my original reply, sometimes you can be successful just by being a good parent to your children. If you have to sacrifice your goal to pick them up from school or take care of them, you’re not any less successful for it.

That said, take this advice to heart. Set two or three goals at the beginning of every day, write them down with intent, then state your backup plan. For everything else that comes your way, make the best of it.

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